Change can happen in the blink of an eye. Sometimes it’s do to a decision we make to change our situation, but more often than not it’s do to Life. No matter how the change comes, soon enough it will happen, and it’s our choice on how we face it.
We could sit and fret over it, asking why, damning everything, and considering what we could have done to stop it. I know this is a topic that a lot of people express the same feeling about, “suck it up”, “you have to stay strong”, etc. Yea it’s easy for people to say that, it is from my own personal experience that I can say, that most people have no idea how to handle a situation that you are going through. They us clichés and phrases straight from Lifetime movie.
Even if the people that offer these sympathies have been through what you have been through, that does not mean it was the same. Maybe both of you have lost a loved one, but they lost a cousin and you lost a spouse and now have to figure out how handle everything and take care of your kids too. Ever grief is different, every change is different, every ones reaction and solution is different.
I’m not saying don’t get upset but we must use that energy, that anger, the sadness, and use it to propel us into the next stage of life. Sometimes change happens because it needs to, just cause you didn’t make the choice to make the change doesn’t mean it’s not for the better. Like they say “no use crying over spilled milk”. The thing that we must remember about life is it has it’s ups and downs, good times and bad times, but we must remember one thing. No matter how bad the situation you’re going through is “this too shall pass”, but also remember that this holds true even for the good times.
We all need our time to fret about the situation, but we must not let it consume us. We have to move on. Our lives are like a song and when something doesn’t sound right you must alter the music, or change the fret. I know that the stress of change can fret away at your patience and at times wear down your will and determination. But we must go forward with change cause sometimes change can happen for a reason and it is up to us to find the silver lining.
Just remember to push through the bad times and enjoy the good, cause everything is fleeting and nothing lasts. So live to the best of your power and never give up just cause the road has gotten a little tough.
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