Sanctuary

When it comes to were you feel the most relaxed, there are multiple places. Your home, the gym, maybe even your car. Regardless it should be a place where you feel safe, comfortable and at peace. Some place where you can forget the troubles of the world, and escape the everyday rigmarole. Some people even go as far as to add some sort of safety blanket like movies, games, or books. Hobbies can be some of the best escapes.

Reading or writing for example can cause a sense of wonder, allowing you to go places that you have never been. Making it a freeing experience where all the real troubles of the world don’t exist. You can do things that you would other wise never be able to do in your real life. Movies can also have the same effect.

I have spent a countless amount of time to make my home a place where not only I can find sanctuary but my kids can too. Yet the other day I had my best friend over and it made me realize something very important. I spend so time much making a home where my kids and myself can be at peace. Yet I never thought about my friends. I strongly believe that everyone should be at peace in my house as much as I am. If I am not stressed in my own home than why should anyone that visits feel any different?

While my friend was here he fell asleep during the movie we were watching and I thought. This guy has been through a lot in the past few weeks, (I will leave detail out in respect of his privacy) and for the first time in months he seemed at peace.

So from now on I will strive to make my home a place where even my friends and family will feel welcomed. A place where no matter what is happening to them in the world, they can let their guard down and relax. They can come and enjoy themselves, take a nap, have an ear to listen, and always feel invited. A place where they know the struggles of the world will disappear even if it’s for a few hours.

If I had to say I learn anything it’s that we all need a place free of judgment and stress. I know that one of the things that help me feel relaxed is spending time with friends, so my friends should feel welcomed and invited in my home and know that my door is always open to them.

So to my friends, new and old, I want extend the invitation to you. If you ever just want a place to escape and relax, watch a movie, read a book, play a game or talk. I am here so don’t hesitate. Life is tough sometimes but you don’t have to go through it all alone.

As for my Committed Readers, I will keep trying to provide you with advice and content that will help you to escape as well. My blog is a big part of my sanctuary and you are always welcomed to continue browsing and spending time getting lost and relaxing.

Yours always,

E.B.

Music Is Life

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Music has a way to affect mood, emotion, and feelings in people in many different ways. Some people listen to music to get hype, others listen to it in order to put themselves in a mood, and still others listen to just enjoy it. Regardless of the reason everyone listens to music, even the deaf can feel the power of music through vibrations. Music affects everyone, we all have a favorite song or a list of song that become our go to in times of different emotion situation.

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Music is a universal thing, a song that your friends might make fun of you for enjoy, could in fact be a No. 1 hit in a country halfway around the world. We love to think that we are the ones who discovered that unheard of band, but the reality, which is actually pretty amazing, is that 100’s of 1000’s of people all found this band at the same time and there for in a weird way, all those people are connected through the universal language of music. For a minute those 100’s of 1000’s of people all feel the exact same feeling, over the idea that they were the first. That is why we get so upset when those secret gems become world wide hits. Because in a way we feel like we deserve credit or that they were there just for us.

Music has had many different influences in many lives. It’s been known to have curative properties, it’s been known to help stimulate different aspect of living organisms, music can even make our point of view skewed. Where would we be without music, and how would we ever make it through long car rides, showers, or get hyped in the gym without it?

musicSo here is the way I am going to end my monologue on music. I ask you my Committed Reader, what is your current jam? What song (or group of songs) do you currently play all the time right now? Share it with me, I would love to even here the story behind why that song/s mean so much to you! Who knows, I may find my new favorite song because of you.

 

Friendship Bestowed

You all came in when I need you most.

And kept me from losing all hope.

A lucky encounter; or insane plan?

That brought together four crazy friends.

All with problems no one understands.

When we get together we take command.

We help each other through thick and thin.

No matter where we go or where we’ve been.

We’re no friends for rent, or a passing trend.

Cause this crew doesn’t play pretend!

A bunch of losers in a club!

But we ain’t no scrubs.

Say what you want but we’re still on top.

Cause every bodies knows we’re non-stop!

via Daily Prompt: Bestow

Loyal Friends

Customer Loyalty Delusion

It is a well received notion in the business industry that aggressive marketing and advertising is number one when it comes to growth and revenue. New consumers are the life blood of a business, but at the same times innovation and costumer loyalty are just as important. Showing old customers that your business can adapt to meet there needs is the best way to bringing them back.

Business 101, Advertise, advertise, advertise! Most stores and businesses want to gain new and old customers alike, going as far as spending tons of money on ads. The problem with that is that in the process of gaining new costumers and reacquiring old ones, companies loose sight of the Loyal Customer.

Loyal Customers (LC) are the ones who never waver, they are committed and understanding. LC’s are the ones who will also attract more costumers, just because they love your company.

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So lets be honest. Do companies really care about their LC’s or do they only care about their new customers?

  • First, Companies focus on ads aimed at new customers.
  • Second, They spend a lot of money on those ads.
  • Third, all the “sales” they have are not for the LC’s, they are a vague gimmick used by companies to allow their LC’s to help recruit potential customers.

It’s a sick system when new customers get a great discount or a lower monthly payment and yet the LC gets nothing. Why? Because they aren’t going anywhere? If the only time companies worry about there costumers is when they want new ones or they are about to loose old ones. Is that really best practice?

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Now if we juxtapose our lives with a business model, will we find that we treat our Loyal Friends better than companies treat their LC’s? I’m not saying that we spend multiple k’s a year trying to aggressively target new friends through ads. (Although I guess you could, and I’m sure people due on craigslist, or is that prosti… Never mind back to the topic). By all means I am also not saying you shouldn’t invest time in trying to mend friendships that have gone astray either.

The difference between life and business is that one has you spending money to better it and the other has you spending Time. How much time are you willing to spend on mending a friendship or finding a new one? How much time do we actually spend making our loyal friends feel important?

New friends and old friends are important, but don’t alienate your loyal friends. Loyal friends that took you lots of time to develop, to bond with, and to become close. These are the friends that deserve a little more time and effort. We can’t treat loyal friends like a pair of shoes, we can’t just pick and choose which friend we hang out with like they are interchangeable.

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Show them how much they mean to you, spend a little more Time and Effort with them. Loyal friends are the ones that will guide you through the rest of your life, through thick and thin. So don’t treat them like some kind of friend for rent.

In Closing

What did we learn? Loyalty is worth so much more than we value it. The time we invest in it is just as valuable. Even if those Loyal Friends are a bunch of losers you randomly went with to see a movie. Now they are your Losers and they should be treated as such.

I thank you for your time My Committed Reader.

I look forward to the next time we get to do this again.

-EB

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Try

Today I’ve decided to change it up a bit. Usually I would write some motivational blog (at least I hope they are motivational) or a poem of some sort but not today. Today is different day, it’s Sunday the day that most people spend in church, or visiting family, or even spending time with friends.

I want to issue a challenge to my Committed Readers today. I say go out there and try something new. I’m not saying go hoe on a plain and jump out of it! Although if you do please put it in the comments cause that’s something I want to hear about immediately!

For everyone else who is more “down to earth” I say step outta your comfort zone just a hair. Meet someone new, try a new restaurant, play a new game, visit family you usually don’t see, write in a new genre (if your a writer), or watch a new show. It doesn’t matter how crazy or how mild the new thing is, just try!

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Maybe you wanna do something all your friends do but you haven’t. Maybe you wanna go play a game of basketball, or try some softball. Hell go for a run or a hike. Take a small road trip. It is up to you all you need to do is partake.

I would love to hear about what you tried and did today. Maybe whatever you choose to do today will help invigorate you for the start of the work week. I mean if you can try something new than there is no reason you can’t handle the mundane and repetitiveness of the rest of the week!

So go out there and try, partake, and experience. Start your week off right. I believe in you my Committed Reader!

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A Parents Love

My mom always told me I would go far!

That I should be kind and humble.

Nothing could stop me from reaching the stars.

That deep in my heart there was a rumble!

My dad always told me to work hard!

Nothing comes easy, you must try.

Life is tough and it will leave scars.

Everything ends and you must say bye.

My parents were ying and yang.

Two parts of the same coin.

One with out the other would be strange.

Two unnatural forces joined.

Encouraging and loving.

Nurturing and wise.

strict and easy going

Shaping and forming two lives.

A hole left in our hearts.

Pain hit like the swing of a Mallet.

Missing all your love and support

Time heals pain, or does it?

Gone to early.

Taken unfairly.

Loved eternally.

You two were a rarity.

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What the Fret!

Change can happen in the blink of an eye. Sometimes it’s do to a decision we make to change our situation, but more often than not it’s do to Life. No matter how the change comes, soon enough it will happen, and it’s our choice on how we face it.

We could sit and fret over it, asking why, damning everything, and considering what we could have done to stop it. I know this is a topic that a lot of people express the same feeling about, “suck it up”, “you have to stay strong”, etc. Yea it’s easy for people to say that, it is from my own personal experience that I can say, that most people have no idea how to handle a situation that you are going through. They us clichés and phrases straight from Lifetime movie.

Even if the people that offer these sympathies have been through what you have been through, that does not mean it was the same. Maybe both of you have lost a loved one, but they lost a cousin and you lost a spouse and now have to figure out how handle everything and take care of your kids too. Ever grief is different, every change is different, every ones reaction and solution is different.

I’m not saying don’t get upset but we must use that energy, that anger, the sadness, and use it to propel us into the next stage of life. Sometimes change happens because it needs to, just cause you didn’t make the choice to make the change doesn’t mean it’s not for the better. Like they say “no use crying over spilled milk”. The thing that we must remember about life is it has it’s ups and downs, good times and bad times, but we must remember one thing. No matter how bad the situation you’re going through is “this too shall pass”, but also remember that this holds true even for the good times.

We all need our time to fret about the situation, but we must not let it consume us. We have to move on. Our lives are like a song and when something doesn’t sound right you must alter the music, or change the fret. I know that the stress of change can fret away at your patience and at times wear down your will and determination. But we must go forward with change cause sometimes change can happen for a reason and it is up to us to find the silver lining.

Just remember to push through the bad times and enjoy the good, cause everything is fleeting and nothing lasts. So live to the best of your power and never give up just cause the road has gotten a little tough.

Thank you for reading my Committed Reader

-EB

via Daily Prompt: Fret

A Song of Life

She walked in and everyone saw her, except me I didn’t see her, I sensed her. I sensed her in the increased blood flow throughout my body. I sensed her when my heart rate quickened and I was in cadence with her. I Sensed her in my shallow breathing, in sync with her steps. We were in rhythm but I doubt she would ever know.

A girl like that would never notice me. Why would she? I was a nobody. A nobody that seemed to syncopate every time she came near. I could feel her presence, and if that was the effect she had on me just by coming close, I could imagine what would happen if she ever touched me. I would daydream about what would happen if she ever came in contact with me. It would be a symphonic event that would start with a crescendo and would be filled with accents and trills that would send us over the top. An unstoppable force of rhythmic passion filled with affrettando and devoto. It would be our greatest compositions!

If that was just a touch, imagine what holding her would entail or even still, what would happen if we ever kiss! A daydream that would overcome me for months!

I would dream of creating music with her for the rest of my life! It would be an awesome song of life!

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We have become a society that is crazily dependent on our cell phones for everything. They have become a crutch and have forced us to miss so many moments in life that once you step back and think about it it’s actually astonishing. I don’t know how many times a week I have to hear a complaint from some one (myself included) that goes along the lines of “Oh my phone is almost dead”. This one phrase is never a thing mumbled in a moment of silence or in between conversation. No it has been my experiences that people can’t help but feel obligated to interrupt whatever is going on to let people know that their phones battery has depleted. When this occurs it usually cause a change in conversation, it’s the equivalent of a wild card in Uno.

Why can’t we wait to say this? It’s bad enough that I find it tough to talk to someone that is constantly on their phone, yet this one thing bothers me the most. I would do my best to help you recharge your phone as long as you telling me doesn’t come at the expense of our conversation.

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Also I feel like we need to learn to do without our phones around our friends. Why can’t we put our phones down to enjoy the time we have with our friends? Now that I am considered an adult and I have to plan out my time with my friends, I can’t understand why we would give up moments just to check our phone. It depletes the moments you have with your friends, I get if you need to answer a call or check a message really quick but there is no good excuse for being on your phone the majority of the time your with your friends.

This is something I really need to work on and something I hope those around me will too. We should learn to enjoy each other and the time we have together. Cell phones should come second. The next time I hang out with my friends I will spend time enjoying it and leave my phone in my pocket.

via Daily Prompt: Deplete

“I am Become Death”

At precisely 5:30 a.m. on Monday, July 16, 1945, the skies above Jornada del Muerto, 210 miles south of Los Alamo’s, New Mexico lite up in a big flash of light! The site of the Trinity Test had people in a state of mixed emotions, a moment cemented in history, as signaling the end of WWII and the beginning of a frantic arms race. Yet this one moment in history is but a glimmer compared to everything that has happened and will happen. Years from now kids will be briefly covering this in their history classes. The problem of how much “Ancient History” to add to text books, and history lesson will be the big concern.

Yet I say that just say this. If we look at the scale of one of the biggest historical events and timeline it with other moments in history, we have to admit that it is but a speck on the timeline. With the fact being that this speck will only diminish as time goes by.

I find that I have been thinking about this a lot lately and when juxtaposed to the average life span. It feels like we spend more time dwell on the past, on our mistakes, our heartbreaks and our failures, than we do the future. The average human life is close to 90 years and increasing, and as impressive as that is, its still a short time, yet we waste so much of it focused on the wrong aspect.

We sit and dream about where we could be, or what we could do, and yet never determine to motivate ourselves to do it. Our time is precious  and our opportunity to glimmer in history is fleeting. So we must resolve to do something amazing, even if it seems impossible. Because for me, I would rather die trying to achieve something most would consider inconceivable, than to waste my time wishing that I had tried.

We only have one shot to establish ourselves among the echelons of history, and to preserve our memory. Maybe all we achieve is giving our family a safe haven and making sure they are provided for. Maybe it’s getting our dream car, owning a home, becoming famous, or writing. No matter what it is living a goal motivated life is something that will put you in the history books. Even if all that means is that your memory will live in the stories passed down through your family. If you ask me that’s would be a great way to be remember.

The only way we will ever get there though is to stop dwelling on the failure and the past. We must focus on the achievements still head and strive to succeed. With a zeal and determination that will be worth talking about well after you’ve departed. So it is that we must motivate ourselves before we erase our chance to Glimmer!

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